001good afternoon that was absolutely horrible good afternoon ten percent better how many remember me from years past okay i'm going to make this short and sweet we're looking at statistics at the fbi academy the other day and we're finding that sexual assault is on the rise it's the biggest crime done to young people but the least reported can anybody here help me out and tell me why you'll tell if someone steals your car steals your uh money or or hits you but you don't tell about sexual assault that's a crime also so why why is there a difference why do you tell about one and not the other can anybody tell me please it is embarrassing i get it and that's the biggest reason young people don't tell not threats or anything else it's because
002of embarrassment now when you do tell though we have found 90 of you at your age tell their very best friend and then they tell them not to tell so my question to you today is and you teach me and i go back to the fbi academy and we get in a think tank about helping young people we we put out these ideas on how to make these programs better so you tell me if your very best friend came up to you today and said hey what that terry hall guy was talking about at school today that's happening to me but you're my very best friend please don't say anything how many would not tell if their very best friend begged them not to just be honest how many would not tell okay it looks
003like about five those five people if i ask them why do they not tell they would say i don't want to lose my friend isn't that kind of selfish your friends being sexually assaulted or been sexually assaulted and you don't want to lose a friend that's the reason your friend was sexually assaulted because somebody else's friend didn't tell and someone else's friend didn't tell i arrested a person up in tipton indiana he confessed to me he had sexually assaulted 300 young people in a 30-year period somebody in this room tell me how you can get to 300 young people and me the police not find out about it because 299 didn't tell it's a simple simple answer 299 didn't tell so when you say i'm not going to tell you're really telling your friend you're
004i don't want to lose your friendship and yes i know you've been sexually assaulted and i know the person who assaulted you is going to assault other kids but but you know i just don't want to lose your friendship if you're my friend i tell you this you got three choices one you and i go the counselor together two i go by myself are three you go be yourself why because i played that game when i was in high school in shelbyville i had a friend of mine that i discovered was on drugs he said he's only taking drugs when they're when he's stressed out and he's stressed out about some tests coming up i said okay so i was a good friend i kept the secret two years later he died of a drug
005overdose let me see the hands that somebody thought i was a good friend see a good friend makes better decisions now good friend says man this person's getting addicted to drugs i need to step up i need to help them what i had to tell yep could he have gotten trouble yep could he be alive today yep he sure could be his family today still will not speak to me because they know that me and a couple of his friends knew and did not step up and get him some help so see and then when you do tell what makes me angry as adults don't believe you just because you're teenagers i get really upset by that but then what do you do your little brothers and sisters come up and tell you about a
006sexual assault and you don't believe them you don't know how many elementary kids i talk to and i ask them have you told anyone else about this at the end of the interview and they go yes my big brother in high school or my big sister and they thought i was lying people you know how embarrassing it is to talk about this to you what do you think a little kid how embarrassing is to talk to them and should they have that information if they're telling you graphic details about sexual assault there's only one way they should know that information that's a learned behavior that means they have seen it or experienced it and they'll tell you before they were their parents because you get in trouble just like they do and they bond to
007you quicker so please don't sell them down the river then we come up to another thing with sexual assault is we think this is a girls issue it's always girls well you know i got to be careful girls you know more boys are sexually assaulted than girls girls tell three times more than boys that's why when we looked at the statistics we used to thought this was a girl problem but then after we started finding mass molestations they were almost always boys why because a pedophile child molester if they're a serial molester that doesn't mean they're touching a raisin bran or something like that means they're touching at least a hundred kids before they're caught if they're a serial molester they want the gender that tells the least that's boys and they want the gender
008that's above suspicion when they're around them since 80 of the molesters are men and twenty percent or so are women then uh you know it's a good chance if you are molested it would be by a male but if males who have alternative lifestyle they're engaged with males not children or not young people or kids so if it has happened to you and by this age level it's probably already happened if it has uh don't think there's something wrong with you when i was eight years old i was sexually assaulted by a family member a family member from greensburg i lived in shelbyville that person lived here and this person was great just loved kids was always buying us things and doing things for us and when i told my family divided right down the
009middle half of them said there's no way that person could ever touch you because they're great with kids and they never charge us to babysit duh [Music] and then the other half said they got you two i thought i was the only one so 14 members of my family were molested while i was waiting to tell and believe me that's a burden that i'll carry till my death i know it wasn't my fault i know that it was something i didn't understand and at eight years old what was i supposed to do but i still feel that guilt when we talk about being your fault sexual assault at this age level is not the guy jumping out of a white van with ninja clothes on and numb chucks touching your private parts and driving off
010into the sunset like uh elementary kids think it's usually done in a much much more much easier way by getting you doing something wrong at this age level you're not real fan of the rules most of our sexual assault that comes by people your age usually come from someone getting you to do something that you wouldn't normally do for instance we had some high school guys in indianapolis they were taking freshman girls they would have them come to a party and they would have them drink some beer and they'd have them smoke a joint maybe experiment with a little meth then they would sexually assault these girls do you think any of those girls are going to come into my office at the police police station and say hey sergeant hall i was out smoking
011a dope and i was a drinking underage and i was doing this and that and then i was sexually assaulted can you help me out i want everyone in this room to know as a law enforcement officer there's no way i'm going to say well served your right to get sexually assaulted you shouldn't done this or you shouldn't have done that i understand that these predators uh they have a procurement process and while the procurement process is getting you doing things wrong so you'll think the sexual assault's your fault it can never ever be your fault i don't care what you do i even had some uh freshman girls were talked into uh some high school guys breaking into outbuildings the police are not suspicious as if four girls are walking through the neighborhood as
012they would be four guys walking through the neighborhood during school time these girls cut school and they would break into out buildings and steal stuff they would take it to pawn shops and sell it and then they'd have a big party the party consisted of two girls and 10 guys and they didn't know that until they got there then sexual assault would happen you think these girls are going to come in my office say hey i was out breaking into outbuildings and stealing stuff so we could have a big party then i was sexually assaulted gang it's i am smart enough to know that you're lured into doing some of these things and we're not going to be faulting you we're not going to appreciate your choices don't get me wrong but at the same
013time the sexual assault's never your fault sexual harassment can be that's one of the biggest problems we're having right now is sexual harassment and they're taking it out of the hands of police and they're civil suing you and your parents uh we had a young man that uh was playing a ball tagging game and a purple nurple just hitting boys in the groin and stuff like that we had a young man that was hitting the groin he fell back in the school bathroom hit his head on the corner of the sink took eight stitches to close the hole in his head that's that's aggravated assault when you do something like that don't come in and tell me oh i was just playing the ball tagging game and it got out of hand or whatever no
014when you hit someone in a private part of the body and then they're injured you're in some serious serious trouble and believe me it's hard to get good jobs anyway good paying jobs and when you're getting a job 50 bucks an hour and they're asking you have you ever been arrested and you say nah just that just that sexual battery case i had on me when do i start you're not going to get that job you guys aren't little bitty kids anymore you're young men and young women i in my job at the intelligence unit the last 19 years of the police department i did dignitary protection as a liaison to the secret service i've met and talked to six different presidents of the united states i have a top security clearance you think i'd
015got that top security clearance if they'd found that i'd been arrested for sexual harassment and then that's not enough you guys are taking your cell phones you call nudes or you call them sexting we call it disseminating child pornography via public airwaves in other words if you take a picture of your own private parts and send it that's what you could be charged with and i don't i don't really grasp it and then when i get to your house i knock on the door and say sergeant hall indianapolis police department have a search warrant for your phone 99 of you say this wait a minute sergeant hall you don't understand i didn't take that picture somebody else took it and sent it to me and all i did was send it on thank you for
016your confession put your hands behind your back you're coming with me when you push that send button you bought a piece of that problem and i don't grasp how you think that we can't find that stuff out we have we have computer forensic experts that do nothing but track back those i p addresses and then the other day we had cyber bullying to the point where a a a high schooler about your age was sending things like you're stupid you're fat you're dumb you're ugly and then sin why don't you kill yourself if that student does kill yourself we'll be visiting you and i cannot believe the amount of lawsuits some of these lawsuits are 50 60 70 000 you pay for the kid that you cyber bullied you pay for their counseling till they
017reach the age of 21. they take it out of your salary i don't have to ask you for it they'll go to court and any job you get a partial of that paycheck will be going to that family for the counseling for their kid and gang if you are so mean that you've got to make another young person feel bad to make yourself feel good when you get out of that chair today you go to your counselor and say i have a problem i need to make other students feel bad so i feel good about myself i have spent 40 years in law enforcement arresting and locking up people who hurt people your age and younger i don't want you to have these problems i want you to grow up healthy and happy i don't
018want you to to to have be victimized by something like this and what do you do you do it to each other i really don't grasp that it's it's it's not funny it never was and it's against the law now you better hope that if you're doing sexual harassment that your staff here to school call the police and let us get involved because here's what's been happening you walk by there's a girl walking in a hallway you pinch her on her breast everybody thinks it's funny all of a sudden she goes home and tells her dad her dad just got out of afghanistan as a marine sniper how's your day going you better hope they call the police because i've had parents fathers and big brothers go insane and they deal out their own meter
019of justice and it doesn't involve the police until after it's done guys sexual assault is not something that's funny it's something that can change your whole entire life when i was sexually assaulted i run away from school my grades went from a's and b's to d's and f's i became a teacher's nightmare because i was angry at all adults because i thought all adults could do that you have to understand that when when this happens you need that help you need to go get some counseling or you need to go talk to somebody there's not a weakness there it just means that you need some help plus finding out who the predator is helps other young people i don't i just don't like it when i have a kid come in and tell me about
020a predator and then i found out 10 or 15 kids knew all along but no one has said anything and that's a victim after victim after victim now let's talk about the internet for a little bit the internet all you guys get on the internet and a lot of you guys play video games we're having a lot of predators get on the internet play video games and stuff and they start gleaning information from you you're smart enough to know at this age level you don't put information out there but i'm asking you today to watch your brothers and sisters i had a a case where a 12 year old little girl had been trained by her brother in high school never ever to give your your uh address out she wasn't but she was bragging
021to all her friends she was talking to a 15 year old boy on the weekends and that 15 year old boy was really a 50 year old child molester that just got out of prison what does she do she doesn't give her address but as she's chatting with him she says hey i can't chat with you any longer i got to meet my friends across the street at garfield park now we were monitoring this bad person otherwise we'd have never known this how long do you think it'd take that predator drive to that park right away that person was there in 15 minutes and already knows what she looks like because she's posted her picture online so you guys are smart enough to know what to do and what not to do but please help
022your little brothers and sisters too that you know more about computers and your cell phones than your your mom and dad does believe me i have a 15 year old grandson that's my my iphone expert i call him all the time i'm having trouble so please take that knowledge and turn it for good and make sure you monitor your brothers and sisters about it uh any questions about sexual assault any questions about cell phone issues any questions about uh internet and any questions about uh sexual harassment that i can answer for you today i'm here for one reason today and that's because your school thought 30 minutes out of your time was important because if just one of you out there needs help this is the day to get it i'd be glad to talk
023to any of you i think you're going to get some slips today if i'm not mistaken and you can check out i need to talk to someone or i don't need to talk to someone you don't have to have those slips you can talk to anybody at all if it's specifically for me then you'd have to tell your teacher on the way out uh when it when it happens to you you're called a survivor because it's not going to stop your life but it does make you more sensitive to what young people are going through and you guys got enough on your plate there's no way believe it or not that if i had a wish that i'd come back to be your age i just it's just too much out there that's that's against
024you and the school here and the school ministries are trying to get you a good education so you can handle this stuff on the outside and one of these things is knowing that you can go to people and talk to them especially about sexual assault if it happens you guys are getting ready to go to college and boy colleges are just like small towns there's murders on campus there's burglaries on campus there's rapes on campus so be aware that when you go to these places take care of yourself and make sure who you're hanging out with i have a college question for you my daughter went to a university of southern indiana to get her education a very fine school she was asleep and at two o'clock in the morning a roommate walked woke her
025up and said she got a wrong number on their phone and she got to talking to the person they seemed like a really nice person so she invited them over at two o'clock in the morning i want you to be my daughter for a second tell me what you would do in that situation i want to see where your mindset is what would you do in that situation yes lock the door so they have to kick it in right okay anybody else got any suggestions yes get everyone out of there and and and they're waiting outside for you anybody else call the po-po yeah get on the phone and call security and that's exactly what my daughter did she got on the phone and she said hey i just realized my roommate's an idiot and
026invited somebody over at two o'clock in the morning can you send someone by security came over sitting a lot and the person never showed up i bet they showed up and saw security and then changed their mind but see that's the kind of kind of things you got to make decisions on i've had high schoolers say uh yeah i'd get a steak knife and sit in front of the door okay or i i take off outside all right you got to you got to get you know authorities involved somebody that can be there to protect you because you never know what these people are going to do and the person could have been a great guy no i don't know but why take the chance just do level-headed thinking when you're in school and in
027these situations arise any other questions whatsoever thanks for taking time to listen i know you've heard this over and over and over but please if this has happened to you even if it was in the second grade i guarantee you that predator is still out there sexually assaulting young people tell today let someone know let us take a look and see what they're doing are they involved in kids are they volunteering for kids programs or whatever so we can stop this because it does change people's lives give yourselves a hand thanks for being courteous [Applause]